Dan Savage Gets It Right About BDSM Safe Words and YDIW
Most people know about Dan Savage. He’s a sex advice columnist that also regularly appears on television. He also shot to even greater fame when he defined the word santorum, much to a certain politician’s dismay.
In Savage’s January 18, 2012 Out Now column, he adeptly answers a question from a reader about BDSM and the use of a certain safe word, but he also, with surprisingly good insight, points out the tendency of many BDSM practitioners to tell others they are “doing it wrong” when in fact they’re not doing it wrong at all. I consider this one of the big issues in the BDSM scene and I found it heartening when Savage committed it to print.
Check out Savage’s column and let me know what you think.
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Darl Sabraw
January 22, 2012 at 2:49 pmI agree with Mr Savage’s opinion. The only person who has a right to tell me that I’m doing something wrong in pleasing my Sub is my Sub. If some one is going to disrespect your choice of a safe word DON’T play with them as they are more likely to simply ignore you when you use it.
Race Bannon
January 22, 2012 at 3:01 pmDarl, I agree. There can be far too much YDIW in the BDSM scene. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of it too on occasion, but this is a great reality check for us all to be a bit more careful when we find ourselves doing the YDIW thing to others.