I’ve been working on a long overdue rewrite of my book, Learning The Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking. As part of that rewrite, I was considering rephrasing the subtitle for the new edition. One of my quandaries was the use of the acronym S/M. Since the original book was published […]

No, this isn’t a post about actually having casual sex with David Ortmann (although perhaps he’d like that). Rather, it’s about his wonderful blogtalk radio show called Casual Sex. Casual Sex is a call-in show hosted by David Ortmann, a San Francisco based psychotherapist, sex therapist and author. As a psychotherapeutic practitioner, his areas of […]

The following is an edited version of the keynote speech delivered by Mark Frazier on February 28, 2010 at the South Plains Leatherfest held in Dallas, Texas. Mark approved this edited version and allowed me to post it here for you to read. While I have a more relaxed perspective than Mark on leather dress […]

I recently did an interview for the San Diego Gay & Lesbian Times. In the interview I specifically talk about my own triad, polyamorous relationship and polyamory in general. For those interested in the variety of relationship options, you might find the interview a worthwhile read. Note: The interview mentions that I’m judging a contest […]

I’ve always known sex is good for you, but it’s nice to see it backed up with studies. Check out this video report from CNN on the health benefits of sex. When you’re putting together your exercise program, perhaps you should schedule more sex. That’s my plan.

As a member of the Board of Governors for the Leather Hall of Fame, I am pleased to reprint here the official press release listing the latest inductees. Please feel free to alert any friends, blogs, websites or publications to this press release. The Board of Governors of the Leather Hall of Fame (LHOF) is […]

Periodically I’ll ask someone within the nontraditional (alternative) sexuality or relationship communities 5 specific questions. Here are one person’s answers. 1. If you could offer people in your community just one bit of advice based on your experience, what would it be? Accept yourself. It sounds simple, but it’s really quite a struggle for all […]

I’ve decided to move the content of some of my past speeches into the blog area of this site. The original version of this speech was delivered by me as the Keynote for the Leathermen’s Discussion Group 10th Anniversary Celebration at the San Francisco LGBT Community Center on July 29, 2006. Subsequently, the version below […]

A degree in BDSM? Certified kinky practitioners? Folks looking for continuing education credits to prove that they’re up-to-date on the latest sexual techniques and information? No, I’m not aware of such programs in place today, but I fear some might actually think it’s a good idea. I do not. Lately, a few people in the […]

I was recently having a chat with a few friends at my local coffee shop in the Castro District of San Francisco. A common thread of conversation is how much the Castro has changed from an almost entirely gay area to one that is certainly still mostly gay, but is clearly seeing an influx of […]