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There is an assumption that there are certain people so confident in their sexuality and erotic identities that nothing can challenge those aspects of their lives. Nothing could be further from the truth. I am living proof. This isn’t easy to talk about. Our society as well as our sexual and kink subcultures worship at […]
As I’ve pursued my own flavor of a sex life, I’ve noticed something creeping in that I didn’t like. Sex had become a game of matching up a somewhat rigid list of turns ons and turn offs, dos and don’ts. If someone who was potentially interesting sexually came into my awareness, my first instinct often […]
I was interviewed by Pup Amp of the Watts the Safeword YouTube channel for their “12 Gays of Christmas” series. If you’re interested in BDSM and kink, check it out. It’s hosted by two gay men and much of the content is of specific interest to kinky gay men, but many other kinksters will find it interesting […]
A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. As a long-time kinkster, I have observed many changes and trends in the leather and kink networks since the early 70s. We’ve moved from a fairly small scene that mostly frequented the underbelly of […]
A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. This post is about celebrating our kinkiness. Obviously that means I’m assuming you who are reading this consider yourself kinky. If you don’t, keep reading anyway. You’ll hopefully find this interesting. When we choose […]
This speech was delivered on March 29, 2015 as the keynote address at the Colorado Leather Fest event held in Denver, Colorado. Good morning. I’ve had a really good time on this maiden voyage of this new Colorado Leatherfest event. I hope you have also. Thanks to everyone involved in creating and running this event. You’ve […]
A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. An odd thing has happened in the wake of the technological revolution regarding how we hookup and otherwise connect with each other erotically. Unlike what I remember from the pre-internet era, nowadays I hear […]
This speech was delivered on February 14, 2015 as the Saturday dinner keynote address at the Southeast Conference of Clubs (SECC) annual event held in Orlando, FL. A video of this speech was recorded and can be viewed here. Good evening. I’ve had a really good time this weekend and I hope you have also. Everyone […]
A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. The resources mentioned are mostly from the local San Francisco Bay Area, but the main content of the post and some of the resources will prove useful to anyone. You will find the original online version here. One of the most beautiful […]
A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. You will find the original online version here. In a local Facebook group comprised mostly of Bay Area kinky gay men, a discussion took place as the result of someone posting about the formation of a group for under 40 guys. This […]