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About This Site

Over the past few years I have been remiss in updating this site. It’s terribly out of date, needs an aesthetic refresh, and generally needs some love and care which I plan to do soon. In the meantime, check out what is here, but you can also find my writings, social media, and ways to […]

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When I First Felt Like a Confident Dom

I was honored I got to tell this story about the first time I truly felt like a skilled and fully competent dominant on Bawdy Storytelling. Dixie De La Tour hosts an amazing show that I hope you get to experience yourself, in person or online. Check out this episode of the Bawdy podcast on […]

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I Have Daddy Issues

I was recently interviewed by Race (yes, there’s another Race running around and he’s awesome – Instagram and Twitter) and Matt (also an awesome guy – Instagram and Twitter) for their Daddy Issues podcast. It was lots of fun and you’ll learn some things about me I might not have divulged before. They were great […]

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I Was At Darklands in Antwerp In Spirit

Although I had to cancel my Darklands trip to Antwerp, at least I was there in spirit. Thanks to Matt of RECON.COM for sending this photo to me. (The idea of Matt licking me made my day.) I also write for RECON. I you’d like to see some of my writings there along with some other […]

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Leather Leadership Conference After-Hours Chat

In 2017 I sat on an after-hours chat panel with Graylin Thornton, Mark Frazier, and Patrick Mulcahey for the Leather Leadership Conference (LLC) in Atlanta. It was a fun trip down memory lane with three of my favorite humans on the planet. Thank you to the LLC Board for making this video available.

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Why Being Lazy Is A Turn Off

Someone asked me recently what I thought would be the “least” sexy thing about a person. I thought about it for a while, a full day in fact, and my answer was “laziness.” Check out my The Least Sexy Human Trait on Medium to learn why I said that.

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Discovering My Kink

Discovering one’s personal kinks and fetishes can be a deeply personal journey. My friend Alexander Cheves was nice enough to include me in his How 6 Kinksters Found Their Kink article in which I and five other kinksters tell how we uncovered our kinky side.

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The Case for Better Polyamory Representation

A friend of mine, Stormy Styles, related strongly to a recent post she saw on Facebook. She copied and edited the text a bit to add some of her own thoughts, then posted it to her Facebook timeline. The reaction was remarkable. The post was quickly shared and copied and widely discussed. I copied and […]

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Watts the Safeword Interview

I was interviewed by Pup Amp of the Watts the Safeword YouTube channel for their “12 Gays of Christmas” series. If you’re interested in BDSM and kink, check it out. It’s hosted by two gay men and much of the content is of specific interest to kinky gay men, but many other kinksters will find it interesting […]

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The Truth About Old Guard

A version of this post was originally published in the Bay Area Reporter. As I walked through the most recent Folsom Street Fair and participated in a few of the Leather Pride Week events, it struck me how much the scene has changed in recent years. I rather like how diverse and multifaceted our scene […]

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