Most people know about Dan Savage. He’s a sex advice columnist that also regularly appears on television. He also shot to even greater fame when he defined the word santorum, much to a certain politician’s dismay. In Savage’s January 18, 2012 Out Now column, he adeptly answers a question from a reader about BDSM and […]

Here is the speech I delivered at the Leathermen’s Discussion Group 15th Anniversary celebration event held Saturday, December 17, 2011. Good afternoon. Welcome to what I personally consider to be an event that marks an extremely important milestone in our local kink and leather scene. I think it’s safe to say that LDG has established itself […]

LGBT rights and sexuality and relationship rights are inextricably intertwined. In this brilliant speech by Hillary Clinton delivered on December 6, 2012 in Geneva in recognition of International Human Rights Day, Clinton signaled a new day in American foreign policy when it comes to LGBT rights. As a gay man myself, Clinton’s speech literally brought me […]

I am posting this on behalf of the Leather Hall of Fame Board of Governors of which I am honored to be a member. Congratulations to the three 2012 inductees. The Board of Governors of the Leather Hall of Fame (LHOF) is pleased to announce the 2012 inductees: Guy Baldwin, Sam Steward and Irving Klaw. Guy […]

Note: Due to some differences of opinion with the direction of the organizing committee (it happens, no big deal), I have withdrawn from the committee. I still do, however, support the event and encourage people to attend. I’m on the organizing committee for the OpenSF Conference 2012. This conference is dedicated to the topic of […]

A buddy and I have a guest opinion article published in this week’s San Francisco Bay Area Reporter. It’s time we more fully embrace medical approaches to reducing HIV transmissions and take a serious, second look at potentially outdated models of prevention. Check out the article and let me know your thoughts.

Last night someone asked me about some of my profiles on a couple of the online hookup sites. This person was confused because sometimes I list myself as a versatile top, at other times versatile, and still other times as a versatile bottom. My dominant and submissive tendencies vary too even though I tend to […]

Recently I met with a couple of buddies of mine to discuss some project ideas for the kink/leather gay men of San Francisco. It was a pleasant night. Great discussion and brainstorming with two great men I both admire and enjoy being around. What’s not to like? While we chatted I was struck by something. […]

Today I was looking at a guy’s profile on one of the many gay hookup sites active today and I noticed something interesting. At the end of the guy’s profiles were these words: “Webcam required before hooking up.” Think about that for a moment. Within a short amount of time I believe webcams on laptop, […]

Most of my readers know that I’m in a long-term, triad (3-way) relationship with two great men. If you don’t know that, well, now you do. One of the purposes of this blog is to encourage everyone to pursue the sex and relationship options that make them happiest and the polyamorous approach works for me […]