Last night someone asked me about some of my profiles on a couple of the online hookup sites. This person was confused because sometimes I list myself as a versatile top, at other times versatile, and still other times as a versatile bottom. My dominant and submissive tendencies vary too even though I tend to […]

Recently I met with a couple of buddies of mine to discuss some project ideas for the kink/leather gay men of San Francisco. It was a pleasant night. Great discussion and brainstorming with two great men I both admire and enjoy being around. What’s not to like? While we chatted I was struck by something. […]

Today I was looking at a guy’s profile on one of the many gay hookup sites active today and I noticed something interesting. At the end of the guy’s profiles were these words: “Webcam required before hooking up.” Think about that for a moment. Within a short amount of time I believe webcams on laptop, […]

Most of my readers know that I’m in a long-term, triad (3-way) relationship with two great men. If you don’t know that, well, now you do. One of the purposes of this blog is to encourage everyone to pursue the sex and relationship options that make them happiest and the polyamorous approach works for me […]

Recently I posted a question to my Facebook page friends asking for feedback about what people felt were issues needing improvement within the kink/leather community (I’m trying to use the word leather less often these days). One of the responses I immediately got back was “stop using the word community.” This is not the first […]

I delivered this speech on September 2, 2011 as the keynote address at the 2011 Master/slave Conference held in Washington, DC. It was originally written to be delivered on the weekend’s Traditions night, but was moved to the keynote position due to changes in the program. You can find the recorded video of this speech […]

There was a time, at least among kinky/leather gay men, when people clearly signaled their alternative sexual proclivities somehow (sometimes referred to a flagging, not to be confused with another form of flagging). Some wore keys on the left, right or in the middle to signal being top, bottom or versatile. Hankies of various colors […]

Here in San Francisco there is an interesting phenomenon happening. The leather/kink community, at least the gay men’s portion of that community, is experiencing an unprecedented revitalization. I haven’t seen this much energy and excitement in a long time. I’m loving it. Gay men in San Francisco who dwell in the kink/gear/leather realms were seeing […]

In the leather/kink world lately there is much consternation about change. Gay men’s leather bars are closing. The pansexual movement seems to be abating and reaching a more natural equilibrium. The rigidity of roles and protocols is lessening. There is more diversity in terms of the sheer number of popular kinks and scene possibilities. Young […]

The folks in the International Mr. Leather organization were nice enough to ask the guys at Leatherati.com to post the full text of the entire speech that Chuck Renslow had planned to deliver during the opening of the final competition on Sunday, May 29, 2011. Due to the need to speed the event proceedings up […]