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Kinksters, The Future Is Bright

While Mark Morford’s latest column in the San Francisco Chronicle titled Calling all kinkster hippie sluts isn’t specifically about the types of alternative sexuality and relationships discussed on this blog, he makes so many references to them that I think it’s worth reading. Besides, Mark is my favorite columnist and has been for quite some time and […]

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Virtualizing the Leather Bar

My friend, Mike Gerle (International Mr. Leather 2007), and I have authored an article on Leatherati, The Leather “Bar” Takes a Virtual Turn. Check it out. With the diminishing number of leather bars available to the gay men’s kink/leather scene, it’s important for us to figure out unique and creative ways to foster more regular face-to-face […]

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Time For An Important Discussion

This week a review by Guy Baldwin about a highly controversial book on leather protocol posted to Leatherati. If you consider yourself part of the BDSM/leather/fetish/kink world in any way, I recommend you read it. I consider it one of the more important works of writing done in the scene in a long time, in large […]

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Dan Savage Gets It Right About BDSM Safe Words and YDIW

Most people know about Dan Savage. He’s a sex advice columnist that also regularly appears on television. He also shot to even greater fame when he defined the word santorum, much to a certain politician’s dismay. In Savage’s January 18, 2012 Out Now column, he adeptly answers a question from a reader about BDSM and […]

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Hillary Clinton Champions LGBT Rights

LGBT rights and sexuality and relationship rights are inextricably intertwined. In this brilliant speech by Hillary Clinton delivered on December 6, 2012 in Geneva in recognition of International Human Rights Day, Clinton signaled a new day in American foreign policy when it comes to LGBT rights. As a gay man myself, Clinton’s speech literally brought me […]

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OpenSF Conference 2012

Note: Due to some differences of opinion with the direction of the organizing committee (it happens, no big deal), I have withdrawn from the committee. I still do, however, support the event and encourage people to attend. I’m on the organizing committee for the OpenSF Conference 2012. This conference is dedicated to the topic of […]

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Erotic Role and Sexual Rigidity

Last night someone asked me about some of my profiles on a couple of the online hookup sites. This person was confused because sometimes I list myself as a versatile top, at other times versatile, and still other times as a versatile bottom. My dominant and submissive tendencies vary too even though I tend to […]

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